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emotional cleanse

An Emotional Cleanse – the first step towards a healthier, happier you.

We can spend a fortune on cleanses for our bodies.  We detox our overloaded physical selves with juices, smoothies, excellent nutrition, and the latest wonder products, because we want to look and feel our best.

However, to really feel our best, we need an emotional cleanse.  A clearing out of our  unhappy thoughts and memories that hold us back from being the happy, confident, in balance selves we deserve to be.


  • Imagine letting go of all your old Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Pain, Guilt & Fear in one stress free session.
  • Imagine how much easier it would be to make better choices and decisions in the moment and future when you are no longer influenced by old negative emotions.
  • Imagine how light you would feel without having to drag around all your old emotional baggage.

You will feel better immediately after an Emotional Cleanse session, and with the better feeling in place, everything becomes much less of a struggle, including weight loss, cutting down on alcohol and simple life stresses.

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An Emotional Cleanse changes the way you think and feel with very little effort and immediately.  Without exception, every client has said they feel emotionally ‘lighter’ before they even leave the room.  Their personal rucksack carrying boulders of  old negative emotions has been emptied.  Something no-one thinks is possible.

Then, when clients see and feel one change easily in themselves,  it moves their emotional blinkers to the possibility of other changes.  The possibilities of a different life free from the excesses of the food and alcohol we use to comfort ourselves.

An Emotional Cleanser powers you forward with compassion and care for yourself and enables you to make better choices.

What is an Emotional Cleanse?

My Emotional Cleanse is a formidable enabler of  personal change.  For my clients it has proven to produce long lasting transformation quickly.  It is not a ‘therapy’ which requires them to unburden themselves to me, it is about shifting how information is stored.  The ‘how’ of the emotions stored, not the situation itself, not the ‘what’.  And because there is no ‘unburdening’ my approach has the absolute minimum of discomfort.

What is an Emotional Cleanses  Role in Weight Loss & Cutting Down Drinking?

I know from my own recovery from alcoholism, and subsequent research, that behavioural change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level. People don’t change consciously.

Clients come to me because they are stuck in their unhappy thoughts and habits.  They often see no way forward and feel paralyzed in their unhappy behaviour (think food, alcohol, shopping), without understanding why.

Often they recognize, on an intellectual level, that it is not the alcohol or food that is the root cause of their problem drinking/eating, and they are also often able to identify their triggers with my help and support. But, being able to understand and identify stress points, is not enough to make the deep internal change which leads to external behaviour transformation.

Recognition doesn’t address or alter the feelings they experience in the moment when they have to make a choice whether or not to pick up that glass or wine or piece of cake.

In the moment of decision making, all the intellectual information acquired, all the acceptance and understanding of their triggers can be of no assistance in change.  This is because the old behaviours are complexly entangled in the way they feel about their poison of choice.  How it comforts them, supports them, relaxes them – even when the reality is completely the opposite.

And further, because of their past experiences of trying to make successful changes long term, they either feel that either some miracle has to occur or some dire punishment threatened, maybe divorce, ill-health or even death, before they will be able to make the transformation they long for.

Through my Emotional Cleanse,  I show  clients, in one 90-minute session, that they can change long held beliefs and negative emotions permanently.  The five emotions removed are anger, sadness, hurt, fear & guilt – the very emotions that are often the fuel that keeps the fire of their habits raging.

Douse that fire and new possibilities and perspectives open up without effort or willpower.  My Emotional Cleanse is the equivalent of an emotional ‘clean sweep’, removing all the rubbish that holds up back from the healthy, sober peaceful life we all deserve.

I have had huge success with moving clients forward using my Emotional Cleanse, approach, take a look at some of my testimonials.

TESTIMONIALS

“I feel so positive with a sense of lightness, I am walking with a spring in my step.  There has been a definite shift in my thinking.  I have noticed how much kinder I am being to myself – my internal voice is not giving me a hard time. I am feeling so much more at peace with myself. This is quite an amazing feeling. Thank you for helping me to feel like this! J Dickie

I had an Emotional Cleanse with Sonia which I found to be incredibly profound form of treatment and very successful in treating me with my issue. The experience was enhanced as Sonia has a very warm and lovely manner, which enabled me to get the most out of the sessions in a safe environment. I would highly recommend an Emotional Cleanse session with Sonia to anyone. M Greene

Sonia made me feel relaxed, calm and very safe to explore my emotions. She took me through the process, carefully explaining each step of the way and was so lovely and kind that I felt able to say just what I needed to without feeling self-conscious – quite an achievement believe me. I can highly recommend this treatment as an emotional spring clean to help you to look to the future with a renewed enthusiasm.” J Ellis

“I cannot believe how I feel.  I am so much kinder to myself, feel so much more self-worth and all my old hurt is gone.  I feel amazing”.  A Thomas

“Incredible experience! I feel less anxious and stressed and feel back in control of my life.  Sonia you are amazing” N Thompson

I DEFINITELY feel so much better, my old heavy emotional baggage has gone.  I feel so much lighter and more capable.  I am making better choices in life and that is wonderful. K Morris

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  • A life changing 90 minute session is £135
  • (very occasionally it does take longer, and the cost is £40 per extra half hour).
  • Consultations can be done in my offices, your work offices or by Skype.

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pain

Pain or Pleasure, What is Eating to you?

When you think about eating how do you feel?  What emotions run through your mind? For some women it can be a huge spectrum from pleasure to pain, sadly far too often tipping more towards the pain end.

Take a look at these questions, which ones do you answer yes too?

  1. When you think of eating, do you feel happy anticipation of something tasty to savour, something that will nourish you, make you healthy and physically and emotionally strong?
  2. Or does the thought of eating, and making food choices, fill you with a low-level dread?
  3. Do you feel a lack of control or trust in your food choices, maybe even fear of the consequences of what you eat?
  4. Is food a cause of stress and anxiety, thinking that what you eat will make you look and feel unattractive and yet you feel powerless to make a healthier choice?
  5. Is food your friend, a safe, fun enjoyable experience?
  6. Or has food become your enemy, something to be watched over vigilantly, because if you don’t it will turn on you and make you feel a failure?
  7. Does food make you smile or does it make you cry.
  8. Do you eat in secret, ashamed and embarrassed, hiding wrappers?
  9. Or do you eat with confidence and enjoyment?
  10. Does a slice of cake with a coffee throw you into emotional chaos, make you feel a failure and derail all your good intentions?
  11. Or do you just view it as a lovely one-off treat that has no bearing on the rest of your day or week food choices?

Far too many women experience truly painful negative emotions around food.  I have clients who are either euphoric over a pound lost or reduced to tears by a single pound gained on that awful scale.  But of course, it is not the single pound that brings them to their knees, it is that they view the woefully inadequate weighing scale as a microcosm of their lives.  That extra pound reinforces all their belief about themselves that they can’t do it, they can’t change.  That they are failures because they feel they cannot control the simple act of what they put into their mouths.

Imagine now removing all those unhappy, negative emotions without therapy sessions, delving into your past – exhausting, time consuming and expensive!  What would life be like for you when you easily choose the foods you need to nourish you as well as enjoying the occasional treat? Where you don’t have the out of control ‘smash and grab’ moments in times of stress/boredom and all the rest?

How do you think you would feel then?  How do you think you will look?  What do you think you will say to yourselves?  Imagine being proud of yourself, leaner,  less stressed and anxious.

I know all the painful feelings of being out of control far too well.  I was an addict to drugs and alcohol for almost 30 years (see my book, This Isn’t Me).  I did all the equivalents of a yo-yo dieter. I attended class, therapies, took pills (not fun) and waved candles (literally) and none of it made a single bit of difference.  Yes, I was sober at times, but I always went back to my only known ‘coping’ mechanism.  I still drank ‘poison’ – you still eat crap.

Why, oh, why?  We are all intelligent woman, successful in other areas of our lives and yet none of us seem capable of not doing the very thing, (me drinking, you food intake), that cause us so much pain.

Now, though, after becoming gloriously and easily sober I KNOW exactly the ‘Why’ and even better for you, how to address it.  How to end the pull between what I wanted to do and what at the very same time, didn’t want to do and the stress and pain that came with it.  Again, me drink, you eat.

I understand now the emotional attachments we have to drink/food – what comfort, support, easing of unpleasant feelings that we think we will get from what we put into our mouths, whilst at almost the very same moment, knowing the reality of what the actual consequences are in terms of both emotional and physical upset.

My passion is to help other women break free from their emotional issues around behaviors that cause them pain, and with YOUtrition it is with food and weight.

I mentor women on understanding why you make the choices you make at certain times, and how to change those choices. To help you understand how you rationalize those choices in the moment and change those too.  I  explain why some of my clients hands seem to uncontrollably hover over the very stuff they don’t want to eat, plus so much more.

I know, from my own life experiences that having knowledge is not enough. Knowledge is everywhere, in every recipe book and it makes very little difference.  I also know that really understanding how we tick, if you choose to take it on board is.

So, please, if any of the above is you, if you are struggling with  emotional pain that you just can seem to change around food, take the first step to freedom,  book a consultation and let’s get rid of those exhausting, conflicting and damaging around food.

I use my expertise in nutrition, my long and painful experience and understanding as an addict and the powerful interventions I have mastered as an NLP Practitioner to bring you back to the whole person you were before those negative emotions overwhelmed you. To a place of peace and confidence in yourself around food.  My mission is to end emotional pain, and I now know absolutely how too.

I offer consultations at my home in Beaconsfield, by Skype and telephone call.  Distance is no barrier to the you you deserve to be!

 

 

 

 

 

New Year, New You – How’s that going?

New Year, New You – so, it’s the first week of 2018 and I suspect most of us are bursting with new resolutions, hopes, dreams, determination for a NEW US, as well as holiday food and booze.

The fact that we have mostly stopped quaffing and scoffing the ‘finer’ things in life, sadly does not mean we are not still wearing them snugly around our waists/hips/busts – sod it, everywhere we can conceivably carry on our persons this excess of ‘fineness’.

Fear not though, we know the problem and we know the solution! We are determined on regular visits to the gym (full of machines we have no idea how to use). We have committed to a brisk daily walk.  A thrice weekly swim.  A dance class, maybe boxing.  Whatever, we have a plan and we are going to stick with it, aren’t we?  Just like last year, so um, maybe not.

Most of our wonderfully planned New Year, New Us, resolutions are over by 3rd January.  Mine, to stop eating mince pies, was over on the 2nd when I found all my favourite brand pies reduced to 10p in Sainsbury’s, yes, just 10p from £2.50 – heaven came knocking on my door again.

I bought 12 (as you do) for the freezer to enjoy every now and then throughout the year with a coffee in front of the TV.  Except that I had eaten them all 2 days later!  Of course I had.  Thank goodness the shop has now sold out otherwise I would eating out of date mince pies until, well, the store ran dry. Oh God!

From the above total failure to stick with my resolution, you might have concluded that I am weeping in a corner, having jumped from the size of a small terraced house to the size of say, Downton Abbey.  I am not.  And, whilst  I have possibly added a small ‘extension’ to my frame, I won’t be imposing rules and limitations on myself (aka, New Year’s Resolutions), to dismantle it.

I know that by making hard, inflexibly strict rules I am setting myself up for failure, for disappointment, for feelings of cravings and deprivation.  I would be preparing myself to be miserable. Heck no!  Instead, I acknowledge my weight gain, go back to my normal eating habits, move a little bit more and give thanks for the wonderfully, happy Christmas and New Year I have been allowed to enjoy with my loved ones.

I will move forward with my health & weight goals by being consistent in my helpful, healthy food and lifestyle choices, and by consigning the unhelpful, unhealthier ones to celebratory occasions such as birthday’s, weddings etc that crop up during the year.

By remaining calm about any weight changes that have occurred over the holidays, and by making good food and movement choices without being frantic and panicky, my weight and health will easily re-balance and I will look and feel exactly how I want to feel without punishing myself physically or emotionally.  I am not useless, or a failure and my world won’t come crashing down because my jeans are a little (actually, quite a lot), tighter for a few weeks.

To give you a boost, here are my top 10 tips to get you back on track. Let’s go smash this New Year thing. Here’s to 2018!! xx

  • Eat breakfast – include a protein to keep you fuller longer, egg/oats/chicken
  • Limit caffeine to 1 – 2 cups a day.  Switch to herbal teas, give your over worked body and brain a rest from stimulants.
  • Drink WATER throughout the day – the first sign of dehydration is hunger. Drink first, wait, then eat only if you are still hungry
  • Keep small snacks with you, palmful of nuts (healthy fats), small banana, apple, oatcakes
  • Eat lunch – make a huge salad filled with a wide variety of colours and textures and portion up each day. Add a tbsp. of extra virgin olive oil and squeeze of lemon.  Or make a big pot of homemade veggie soup to portion out.
  • Whole foods only. Packed with fibre and nutrients these will get you slim and glowing in no time.  If it comes packaged with a list of ingredients, its not a whole food.
  • Dinner – fill your plate with 2/3 with steamed veg, add a protein – baked salmon or chicken in foil is soooo easy.
  • Use smaller plates – invest in some cheap smaller dinner plates and put the bigger ones out of sight. You will not notice the reduction in food that way.
  • Avoid sugary sweets/snacks – these and alcohol are the ultimate diet saboteurs.
  • MOVE – walk a little more every day. Use a phone app and count your steps, aim for a minimum of 10,000.  Buddy up and have a competition to see who can complete the most in a day.  Loser buys the coffee!
  • Think positive. Your weight at any one time is just a snapshot.  It is not your ‘for ever’ weight unless you choose it to be!
Prepping

Prepping for SUCCESS! A Key Factor in Successful, Sustainable Weight Loss & FUN!

As a Specialist in Weight Loss and Nutrition, I know that food prepping is one of the key factors in successful, sustainable weight loss.

Once you start regularly prepping your food for the next few days/week, you really will never look back.  The days of grabbing totally unsatisfactory “beige food” from a fast food outlet or a pre-packed supermarket  sandwich (with a food label listing suspiciously chemical sounding ingredients), will become a distant, unpleasant memory – along with the uncomfortably tight waistband, lethargy, insulin spike, subsequent frequent hunger and disappointment in your continuing struggle with weight loss.

No matter how busy your life is, if you have time to watch watch TV in the evenings, you have time to prep.  It is all about prepping your life around your health and weight, not the other way around.

Make a list of wholefoods during the week (plus add some spices and other staples).  Choose and stick to a quiet time to spend half an hour in the shop – believe me, when you are mainly buying mainly wholefoods there is no wandering up and down the isles pondering over chemical choices and checking out food labels for the healthiest options.  Then set aside just an hour, experiment with easy recipes, mix up some that need cooking and some that don’t.  Batch up into sealed tupperware containers and pop into the fridge/freezer.  Keep it simple and keep it stress free.

Whilst I accept that in the beginning the idea of prepping and cooking food in advance for the fridge can be quite daunting, you quickly adapt and factor it in to your weekly routine.  As you start to make easy meals that you look forward to and that keep you on your weight loss track, it will become fun.  How fab to come home, grab something you really like from the fridge or freezer, pop in the microwave or oven, and by the time you have taken off your coat and changed your shoes, a delicious meal is done.  Or to wake late knowing that no matter how much of a rush you are in, breakfast, lunch and dinner is sorted and you just have to grab something from the fridge!

I am not a cook, but I really enjoy the (up to) 2 hours in the kitchen, normally at the weekends, “creating”.  I have my standard 5 – 6 meals which I jazz up with different herbs, spices and individual twists and I LOVE IT! I also love the fact that I know exactly what I am eating and feeding to my loved ones.

Always prepared.  Never hungry. Always working towards your health & weight loss (and one last and important point, much cheaper)!

Let’s get prepping.

journey

Journey Planning – 5 Minute Food Tips

Tomorrow my Number One (aka my 18 year old son, Christopher) and I are going on HOLIDAY! I am so excited.  Every year we have one week away together just the two of us hiking in the UK.  This year we are going to be hiking around the glorious Devon coastline.  This truly is my favourite week of the year and I am struggling to calm down!

As a Nutrition and Weight Loss Coach I know that  food planning for every  journey is key to avoiding the pre-packed, sugar drenched, high salt, low fibre, taste free, out of desperation and very expensive motorway fare.

So, as I pack the car I always make sure we have the following with us;

  • Bottles of water
  • Sandwich bags of mixed nuts & seeds
  • Bananas/Apples
  • A homemade salad or sandwich – depending on the expected length of the journey
  • Sugar free gum

This little bit of pre-planning takes 5 minutes, usually the night before but is invaluable.  It is one of the biggest potential weight loss disaster to leave the house unprepared!

Even if I go out for the day, I always have a little healthy, filling something in my bag and I never leave home without a small bottle of water.  I want to feel my best when I am out and about and the one sure fire way of not feeling that way is to find myself with low energy levels and a rumbling tummy and then searching for something/anything that will keep me going without making me feel worse.  I don’t want to have to grab a bar of chocolate for instant energy and then have a horrible sugar slump,  I would rather have a small bag of nuts and seeds which will keep my satisfied and alert for hours.  I don’t want to pay £2 for a bottle of water when I am over thirsty or have to grab a can of drink. I want to have my own little bottle with me ready so I don’t get to that point.

Saying all the above, I often have a coffee when out, just the one, as I also enjoy the social aspect of being out and about and I love to people watch, but it is a treat not a necessity.  So be prepared, enjoy the journey as well as the destination.   Happy Holiday To Us!